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Choice Confidence Growth Life Purpose Success

Are You Living Into Your Values or Feeling the Pain of Not?

ValuesI guess the question that might precede the question in the title of today’s musings and Happiness Tips is this:

Do you know what your primary VALUES are?

Do you REALLY know? (beyond the 23 second guess you might be inclined to do)

You might also be reflecting back to me, “Why is this an important question to commit my precious time and brain power to?”

Let me answer you question about why it is vitally important to understand what our primary and most important values are.

It’s actually simple.

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Choice Fear Feeling Perspective Physical Activity

6 Pieces of Wisdom to Take Into 2019

wisdomBefore I step over the line and move into a new year or a new chapter, I thought I would look back over the last 49 years and see what are the 6 best things pieces of wisdom I would take with me into 2019.

This was a powerful question I asked myself:”If I could only take 6 pieces of wisdom (or strategies) with me into 2019 what would they be?”

Tough question! But I will give it a shot.
Here goes…

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Choice consciousness Perspective Rest Success

Sustainability, Hamster Wheels, and Eating Cake

sustainabilityAs usual I like to write about the things that are most relevant or most common with the different clients I have been working with over the last few weeks.

The theme that has been most common is how to have a work / life balance, but more importantly, how they can sustain a joyful life over the long term.

It seems that everyone is in a rush. Sound familiar?

And it seems that the rushing thing is not sustainable if you actually want to enjoy your life at the same time as creating something great, or doing great or becoming great; and not fall over in a heap of fatigue, illness or burn out.

Hands up if you would actually like to enjoy this life thing more?

If you are in a rush, I am guessing that the enJOYment factor is not even close to the 10 out of 10 possibility. You are probably barely even getting a pass at 5 out of 10 on a daily basis. That sort of sucks a bit.

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Belief Choice consciousness

How 3 Small Things…

small thingsI have been busy of late doing coaching sessions and regardless of how many sessions I do, with how many different people – from completely diverse backgrounds – I am forever reminded about how the little things can have so much impact on how we experience life.

A few little things can make the difference between ease and grace or pain and frustration.

Let me share a profound revelation with one of the amazing people I had the pleasure of working with recently. This person is very successful in their chosen profession, but probably suffers more than they need to (or would like to) in their professional and personal life.
When I started asking questions, listening intently and exploring more deeply some of my suspicions, I saw a combination of three factors that individually are probably not a big deal, but mixed together in the right combination, they become a major pain in the butt and a source of way too much stress.

A little stress is ok. And maybe sometimes a big bit of stress is ok. But it is not ok if we have a high level of stress for an extended period of time. That leads to unhappiness, a sense of powerlessness and inevitably, health issues.

Want to know what the little big three were?!?!
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Belief Choice consciousness Growth

The Most Effective Way to Shape Your Destiny

destinyI think believe this concept to be simple.
But unfortunately, simple is not easy. Doh!!! Sorry in advance.
But I am here to help make it easier for you. How thoughtful of me (he says as he chuckles to himself).I am told I can’t use emoji’s in the text as it throws out the formatting. That means I am writing as if emoji’s were never birthed into this world….Now back to the topic.This is what I believe to be the key equation to shaping your destiny.CHOICES = DESTINY

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Belief Confidence Doubt Growth

A Recent Revelation on How to Increase Your Confidence

confidenceI often think I am going to write a short newsletter, or tell you I am, but it rarely happens. So today might be a first for me, as my revelation was pretty damn simple (it happened in seconds).

Here is the background…

For a lot of clients I work with, a major thing on their shopping list of ‘Things I Want in My Life‘ is CONFIDENCE. “How can I have more confidence?” is a common question I am asked.

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Belief consciousness Growth

Is Your Belief About ‘Possibility’ Causing You to Make Quantum Leaps or Drag Your Arse?

possibilityEssentially I am interested to know if your beliefs about ‘possibility’ are taking your forward in leaps and bounds in your life, or are your beliefs causing you to drag your butt and get left behind by your future possible self?!?! 

Let me explain.

This is what I have witnessed and experienced hundreds of times…

It is not a ‘universal reality’ that determines the experiences someone has in life – in their relationships, their profession, their earning potential or anything else. It is the beliefs they have and the stories they tell that keep them locked into their our own personal reality of the universe. If we change the stories we tell, about what is or is not possible for us, we actually start to change your world.

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Choice consciousness Perspective

5 Smart Ways to be Even Smarter than Your Smartphone (MORE Productive & LESS Stressed)

social mediaI am so grateful I am ‘old’. Really.
And before the ‘old’ thing starts growing its own story, I mean ‘old’ in the sense of being 48 years old (not 108 years old!). I still feel I am well and truly in the glory years of my life.
But when it comes to mobile phones, I am decades older than them. Below is the first ‘mobile’ phone we had in our office, while I was in the army in the early 90’s. I think calling it ‘mobile’ meant it was only mobile if you had a car to carry it in.
Anyway, the round-about point I was trying to make is I am glad I grew up in a time where there was a ‘before mobile phone’ period where we learned other ways to amuse ourselves, other ways to communicate and other ways to organize meet-ups with fellow backpackers when traveling the globe.
We would actually have plans like this: “Let’s meet up on the number 1 platform at the Prague main train station, on the 25th of June, between 10am and 1pm. If you don’t make it on that day, we will meet between 10am and 1pm on the 26th. If we still don’t meet up, then I will see you when I do.”
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Belief Choice consciousness Growth Success

Why Are You Rushing? Really. Why?

rushingThis might be a very short article. Might being the operative word. I actually don’t know how long it will be when I sit down at the start writing; because I just write and see what comes out.

So the big question I want to explore (for myself as well as you) is…

WHY ARE YOU (WE) RUSHING?

What’s the hurry? What is the race you are in?

Maybe someone (back in a Victorian times) set us up for failure by penning the words…the human race.
Perhaps we inadvertently set an intention by using the word not how it was intended. And now we are playing it out. Interesting…or…

SHIT!!! (Sorry dad)

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Choice Emotional Growth Success

The 5 Biggest Takeaways from One of The Best Success Coaches on the Planet (Tony Robbins)

successSo a couple of weeks again, myself and a couple of my colleagues made a pilgrimage to Singapore to attend an event with 13,000 other people called ‘Unleash The Power Within‘, hosted by Tony Robbins and his crew.

Now we know that money is not the measure of success, but it can indicate the ‘perceived value’ of something. Tony Robbins really is one of the best when it comes to creating massive change in people. He currently has a 2-year waiting list for clients who want to work with him. The price tag is $1,000,000! That fee is pretty out there, but get this. He only works with you for up to 12 hours!!!!!

He has worked with Serena Williams, Bill Clinton, Andre Agassi, Princess Diana, plus a whole lot of who’s who. The reason they hire him is because he gets RESULTS. He is a MASTER at the art of changing peoples lives. He has been doing it now for about 4 decades. So he has amazing insights, personal experience, and also access to the best minds on the planet.

So…he is worthy of listening to.
And now I will share with you the 5 biggest things I took away from this 4-day event.