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It is Time for Some Relationship Tips

I suspect you are unlikely to guess what my #1 Relationship Tip is.

A bit of back ground first, so we have some ‘context’.

(Side Tip: The context – also known as the bigger picture – is so important when it comes to communication, and even making high quality decisions. Getting clear of the context first, is a great habit to have)

So…

I was hanging out with a colleague the other day, who is high-vibe, and also a fan of Dr Joe Dispenza’s work (which helps be a high-vibe person), and they mentioned something about me and the books I have written (5 and counting). They also mentioned it would be great if I created a program on how to write and publish a book – so keep an eye out for that, as I LOVE to teach what I have learned along the way.

Now a bit over 10 years ago I set one of those big hairy audacious goals. I committed to writing 5 books in 10 years.

And ticked it off in 2020.

I had also decided to write The Guidebook Series, with a book on each of the following subjects: happiness, health, success, relationships and spirituality.

I actually wrote the first 3 books and then took a detour when I got to a ‘guidebook’ on how to create amazing relationships.

Do you want to know WHY … and what it confirmed for me?

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Belief Choice consciousness Perspective Success

How to Improve Your Manifesting Powers

Would you like to be better at manifesting what you ACTUALLY want?

If so, then read on.

Have you ever heard the theory of how many thoughts we have, each day? Since it is not easy to count thoughts, the number ranges from about 6,000 to 60,000. Regardless of the exact number of zero’s it is still A LOT.

In addition to this, researchers suggest most of our thoughts are recurring, and the vast majority of them are NEGATIVE. Eeeeeek!!

This is the foundation for the manifesting strategy I want to share.

Because…

If you are sending out, or percolating, or reacting to, 6,000-60,000 thoughts a day, many of which are not in your best interests (negative); do you want this to be your principle communication source to the Universe?

How does the Universe, or even the people around you, know what you REALLY want, if you have so many thoughts firing off in multiple different directions, like a firecracker?

This is why we need a better strategy.

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Choice consciousness Growth Life Lessons Success

An Essential Practice for Thriving

Today, instead of a question, let’s start with a quote.

“The cave you fear to enter is where your treasure lies.” Joseph Campbell (developed the framework of The Hero’s Journey)

I will do a deeper dive, in a future post, on The Hero’s Journey, but for now let’s look at the essence of his work.

And here is my challenge for the warrior in you…

Don’t bugger off, or tell yourself you are too busy to read this, or any other excuse if I say something that you don’t necessarily want to hear.

Things like … to STRUGGLE (at times) is pretty essential to meaningful thriving.

You may not want to hear that.

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Are You Using The ‘Right’ Metrics to Measure SUCCESS

We have already started with a good quality question.

Just the way I like it.

This topic has come up for me with a number of my coaching clients, in the past, and even more of late.

Because, here is the thing.

I can use a unit of measure that tells me I am successful (or not), but if that unit my measure is crap, then the feedback I am getting is not really that useful.

So…what unit of measure are you using, to determine if you are doing well or not in this game of life?

Now, let’s go deeper.

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Choice Decision Making Growth Life Lessons

Your Destiny, Decision-Making, and Sound Bites

Let’s continue with this wonderful subject of how to make your life more AWESOME.

But first it is question time…

Would you like to be an effective CO-CREATOR in your Destiny (as opposed to being at the whim of ‘fate’ or other peoples personal agenda’s)?

I am guessing you said “Yes”.

Next question…

How important do you think the quality of your decision-making would be when it comes to being this potent and powerful co-creator of your destiny?

I am also guessing you said “VERY (or #%@#&) Important!”, or words to that effect.

Cool. We are on the same sheet of music.

And just so you understand my background when it comes to this decision-making thing (so I have some street cred): I have a combination of 14-years as an officer in the army; 5 years security consulting to Olympic Games and mega events; 14 years coaching; training in NLP and hypnotherapy; and wrote a book last year called ‘Decision Making Mastery’.

So, are you with me?

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Choice Gratitude Growth Success

How Close to Ideal is Your Lifestyle?

Are you ready for another question? (And that was not it).

How would you rate the quality of your current LIFESTYLE on a scale of 1 to 10 (where 1 sucks and 10 is awesome!)

Be honest.

Is it spot on?

Or is there a gap between what you would love your lifestyle to be, and what it currently is?

How big is the gap?

If the truth be known, I am not the guy that you come and see if you want to make a bazillion dollars. I am not really an expert in that, plus I am not really interested in that as a meaningful and evolutionary life goal. What I am more interested in is how can we close the gap between now, and what our ideal (meaningful and fulfilling) lifestyle might look like.

Before we go any further; you also don’t need to have a bazillion dollars to create the ideal lifestyle.

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Are You Doing the (Essential) Inner Work?

PART 2: DOING THE ‘INNER WORK’

In my last post I talked about the importance of working on the inner environment, in order for us to experience optimum health – physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically and even spiritually.

Today, I am going to take the conversation a little deeper, as we talk about what the inner work actually looks like.

First let us establish a few foundational pieces:

  • Thoughts and feelings (emotions) have a chemical effect within the body.
  • Thoughts and feelings have an electromagnetic effect within the body and its field.
  • Past traumatic experiences, if not resolved, can have effects in the present.
  • Hoping our past doesn’t impact our present, generally doesn’t work.
  • Neuroscientists suggest that we are only consciously aware of our thoughts, feelings and even behaviours, about 2-8% of the time. When we are not fully present in the moment, we go into our unconscious autopilot ‘programs’. To understand this deeper check out – The Successful Mind.
  • Essentially non-physical things (emotions) can have physical effects on the body.
  • Physical interventions (medication, surgery, radiation, and even exercise & nutrition) don’t necessarily heal the root cause of emotional or physical symptoms.
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Choice Decision Making Goal Setting Tips Life Lessons Success

Are You Living According to YOUR Plan?

What is your plan

I just finished having a Part 2 Podcast conversation with fellow coaching colleague of mine – Sharon Cavanaugh – where we delved deeper into what tools, tips and strategies we have in our arsenal to best serve ourselves and our clients when it comes to turning the dial up on life.

We switched around different topics, but there is one I want to focus on today.

It relates to the question:

Are you (a) doing what you love to do, or (b) what you have become good at?

We could also interchange the list of (b) options with…

…or what people think you should be doing?

…or what you think you should be doing?

…or what your parents wanted you to do?

…or what you get the most recognition from?

…etc.

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Choice consciousness Decision Making Growth Perspective

2 Common Mistakes when Manifesting Desires

2 mistakes people make when manifesting

In a recent Life Masterclass podcast, I had a conversation with a coaching colleague of mine – Sharon Cavanaugh – about meditation and different modalities we have found to be most effective for ourselves and out clients. Do check it out.

We both agree one of our favourite meditators and educators is author and neuroscientist Dr Joe Dispenza, and recently Sharon and a mutual friend had the opportunity to attend an advanced retreat in Denver with Dr Joe. By the way if you ever get a chance to attend one of his events I HIGHLY recommend it. Life changing!!

After the event our mutual friend told me that I would love an insight and distinction Dr Joe shared.

He was talking about finding the balance between ‘intent’ and ‘surrender’. He suggested:

“Over-intent becomes trying (which is a form of separation) and over-surrender becomes giving up”.

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3 Simple Choices that Changed My Life

Becoming a butterfly

When I am hosting workshops or seminars, I like to share parts of my origin story, for the groups benefit. I also like to think of myself as a ‘crash test dummy’.

I try things out on myself first (like a 5-day water-only fast) and then share with someone like you, what the outcomes were – good, bad and otherwise.

Starting during Easter 1999, I decided to undertake a 30-day challenge, which came in the form of a number CD’s and was presented by Tony Robbins. As a result of that activity, I decided to make (an action) three significant life choices, which steered my life in a (completely) different direction.

This is what I learned back then, coupled with insights from the last couple of decades.

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