You know I am a big fan of simple and practical strategies that make a real difference, right now, in peoples lives (including the life of myself).
This technique is very simple to do…which also means it is very simple NOT TO DO.
So you need to set the intention right now, that you will trial it for the rest of the day and for a period of at least 48hrs.
Are you ready to commit to that?
Then let’s get started!
I imagine that you mostly agree with the statement that what we DO and DON’T do have a huge impact on the results we get in life. I have spent the last 20 years on a search for the DO’s and DON’Ts when it comes to increasing our happiness, health and success.
So today I am going to focus on what the successful people (the happy, healthy and fulfilled people) DON’T make a habit of doing.
Are you ready, because here we go…
Have you heard me say before that ‘motivation is the fuel that you need to keep on feeding’? I tell my clients that with motivation it is like needing to keep kicking your own arse. It can get stuff done, but it is not the most effective source of fuel in my opinion.
So when I hear people say they lack motivation, or want more motivation, or they are looking for the way to increase their motivation, I like to suggest a different approach.
One that I will share with you very shortly.
But first we will need to talk about six basic human needs, plus what my favourite neuroscientist has to say, and then we will dip into 1000’s of years of ancient wisdom.
Are you ready?!?!
I call myself an expert ‘strategist’.
I spent 14 years as an officer in the army and then 5 years consulting to Olympic Games and mega events. I am not saying this to toot my trumpet, but to let you know that I like to be really strategic about stacking things in my favour so I get the BEST and BIGGEST results.
When it comes to TRANSFORMATION (becoming someone even greater, so you create something you have not created before) I want to consider all of the areas that are going to have the greatest return on investment (ROI).
I am not naive to think I can remove the ‘work’, but if I am going to do the work, I want to make sure I am working on the stuff that really matters. The things that have a bigger ROI compared to the effort you put in.
Thus I look to see exactly what can I do, to positively influence these three main areas:
Let’s have a look at each of them separately shall we.
I guess the question that might precede the question in the title of today’s musings and Happiness Tips is this:
Do you know what your primary VALUES are?
Do you REALLY know? (beyond the 23 second guess you might be inclined to do)
You might also be reflecting back to me, “Why is this an important question to commit my precious time and brain power to?”
Let me answer you question about why it is vitally important to understand what our primary and most important values are.
It’s actually simple.
I think believe this concept to be simple.
I often think I am going to write a short newsletter, or tell you I am, but it rarely happens. So today might be a first for me, as my revelation was pretty damn simple (it happened in seconds).
Here is the background…
For a lot of clients I work with, a major thing on their shopping list of ‘Things I Want in My Life‘ is CONFIDENCE. “How can I have more confidence?” is a common question I am asked.
Essentially I am interested to know if your beliefs about ‘possibility’ are taking your forward in leaps and bounds in your life, or are your beliefs causing you to drag your butt and get left behind by your future possible self?!?!
Let me explain.
This is what I have witnessed and experienced hundreds of times…
It is not a ‘universal reality’ that determines the experiences someone has in life – in their relationships, their profession, their earning potential or anything else. It is the beliefs they have and the stories they tell that keep them locked into their our own personal reality of the universe. If we change the stories we tell, about what is or is not possible for us, we actually start to change your world.
This might be a very short article. Might being the operative word. I actually don’t know how long it will be when I sit down at the start writing; because I just write and see what comes out.
So the big question I want to explore (for myself as well as you) is…
WHY ARE YOU (WE) RUSHING?
What’s the hurry? What is the race you are in?
Maybe someone (back in a Victorian times) set us up for failure by penning the words…the human race.
Perhaps we inadvertently set an intention by using the word not how it was intended. And now we are playing it out. Interesting…or…
SHIT!!! (Sorry dad)
So a couple of weeks again, myself and a couple of my colleagues made a pilgrimage to Singapore to attend an event with 13,000 other people called ‘Unleash The Power Within‘, hosted by Tony Robbins and his crew.
Now we know that money is not the measure of success, but it can indicate the ‘perceived value’ of something. Tony Robbins really is one of the best when it comes to creating massive change in people. He currently has a 2-year waiting list for clients who want to work with him. The price tag is $1,000,000! That fee is pretty out there, but get this. He only works with you for up to 12 hours!!!!!
He has worked with Serena Williams, Bill Clinton, Andre Agassi, Princess Diana, plus a whole lot of who’s who. The reason they hire him is because he gets RESULTS. He is a MASTER at the art of changing peoples lives. He has been doing it now for about 4 decades. So he has amazing insights, personal experience, and also access to the best minds on the planet.
So…he is worthy of listening to.
And now I will share with you the 5 biggest things I took away from this 4-day event.