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Choice Decision Making Growth Life Lessons

Your Destiny, Decision-Making, and Sound Bites

Let’s continue with this wonderful subject of how to make your life more AWESOME.

But first it is question time…

Would you like to be an effective CO-CREATOR in your Destiny (as opposed to being at the whim of ‘fate’ or other peoples personal agenda’s)?

I am guessing you said “Yes”.

Next question…

How important do you think the quality of your decision-making would be when it comes to being this potent and powerful co-creator of your destiny?

I am also guessing you said “VERY (or #%@#&) Important!”, or words to that effect.

Cool. We are on the same sheet of music.

And just so you understand my background when it comes to this decision-making thing (so I have some street cred): I have a combination of 14-years as an officer in the army; 5 years security consulting to Olympic Games and mega events; 14 years coaching; training in NLP and hypnotherapy; and wrote a book last year called ‘Decision Making Mastery’.

So, are you with me?

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Choice Gratitude Growth Success

How Close to Ideal is Your Lifestyle?

Are you ready for another question? (And that was not it).

How would you rate the quality of your current LIFESTYLE on a scale of 1 to 10 (where 1 sucks and 10 is awesome!)

Be honest.

Is it spot on?

Or is there a gap between what you would love your lifestyle to be, and what it currently is?

How big is the gap?

If the truth be known, I am not the guy that you come and see if you want to make a bazillion dollars. I am not really an expert in that, plus I am not really interested in that as a meaningful and evolutionary life goal. What I am more interested in is how can we close the gap between now, and what our ideal (meaningful and fulfilling) lifestyle might look like.

Before we go any further; you also don’t need to have a bazillion dollars to create the ideal lifestyle.

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Are You Heading in The Right Direction?

This is a good question.

How meaningful are your life goals on a scale of 1 to 10?

That gets right to the heart of the matter.

And I think in the current world environment, with a lot of bonkers having happened over the last couple of years (and continuing) it really is the time to have a MUCH deeper look into where we are putting our attention, energy, resources and life force.

In The Guidebook to Authentic Success, I suggest that it is hard to truly feel ‘successful’ right down to your bones, if you are not doing things with your life, or heading in the direction of meaningful life goals.

One of my favourite quotes by Earl Nightingale is:

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” I often substitute ‘ideal’ for ‘goal’.

What is means to me is I get to experience the feelings of success (I prefer the authentic version), while I am heading in the direction of, and working towards the realisation of, something that is truly meaningful.

The other thing is if you choose the most meaningful (and right) Goals, you are more likely to experience the other things essential to authentic success, such as: growth, connection, experiencing joy, and feeling in alignment with your authentic self.

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How is Your Body Trying to Get Your Attention?

INTERPRETING MESSAGES FROM THE BODY

I have been coaching, and doing therapy work, for over 14 years now and one of the ways I get to genuinely know where people are at, and how best I can serve them, is to ask them relevant questions.

And one of the best questions I ask does not even require firing up the intellect, because it is a question for their bodies.

I ask them to look inwards, and tell me how their body is speaking to them.

I ask them: “What aches and pains or areas of discomfort are you experiencing in your body now, or experience on a regular basis?

This provides a veritable gold mine of information, for both of us.

Let’s see you how you can also use this same process.

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Book Emotional Relationship

The BEST Relationship Strategy

The author of this book and strategy (Gary Chapman) is a relationship councellor, who discovered that there are five principle ways we express our LOVE in a relationship, and alternatively there are PRIMARY ways we wish to receive the expression of love (back to us) in our relationships.

I recorded a video 5 years ago (complete with whiteboard) to explain to you the full strategy and how to use it.

I would also encourage you to read the book – The 5 Love Languages – or check out Gary Chapman’s website to determine what your Primary Love Language is.

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Belief Choice Emotional Growth Pain Self Love

Are You Doing the (Essential) Inner Work?

PART 2: DOING THE ‘INNER WORK’

In my last post I talked about the importance of working on the inner environment, in order for us to experience optimum health – physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically and even spiritually.

Today, I am going to take the conversation a little deeper, as we talk about what the inner work actually looks like.

First let us establish a few foundational pieces:

  • Thoughts and feelings (emotions) have a chemical effect within the body.
  • Thoughts and feelings have an electromagnetic effect within the body and its field.
  • Past traumatic experiences, if not resolved, can have effects in the present.
  • Hoping our past doesn’t impact our present, generally doesn’t work.
  • Neuroscientists suggest that we are only consciously aware of our thoughts, feelings and even behaviours, about 2-8% of the time. When we are not fully present in the moment, we go into our unconscious autopilot ‘programs’. To understand this deeper check out – The Successful Mind.
  • Essentially non-physical things (emotions) can have physical effects on the body.
  • Physical interventions (medication, surgery, radiation, and even exercise & nutrition) don’t necessarily heal the root cause of emotional or physical symptoms.
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Discover The Missing Part in Most Health Strategies

The missing part in health strategies.

MY 2-PART ‘HEALTH SOLVING’ STRATEGY

I know you know – especially if you actually read my blogs – that the universe is made up of the seen and the unseen. The physical and non-physical. Energy and matter.

Therefore, it stands to reason that if we want to ‘solve’ something, we might need to work on both the seen, and the unseen.

It has been my experience over the last 52 years, and particularly in the last 23-years that I have been immersed in the personal development and optimum health field, that if you just focus on solving things in the ‘outer’ world (the seen or physical), you will get a 50% effective (or less) outcome.

So essentially my 2-part health solving strategy, is about doing the OUTER work as well as doing the INNER work.

Here is what I do when I am feeling crook, off, ill, in pain or unwell.

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Choice Decision Making Goal Setting Tips Life Lessons Success

Are You Living According to YOUR Plan?

What is your plan

I just finished having a Part 2 Podcast conversation with fellow coaching colleague of mine – Sharon Cavanaugh – where we delved deeper into what tools, tips and strategies we have in our arsenal to best serve ourselves and our clients when it comes to turning the dial up on life.

We switched around different topics, but there is one I want to focus on today.

It relates to the question:

Are you (a) doing what you love to do, or (b) what you have become good at?

We could also interchange the list of (b) options with…

…or what people think you should be doing?

…or what you think you should be doing?

…or what your parents wanted you to do?

…or what you get the most recognition from?

…etc.

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Choice consciousness Decision Making Growth Perspective

2 Common Mistakes when Manifesting Desires

2 mistakes people make when manifesting

In a recent Life Masterclass podcast, I had a conversation with a coaching colleague of mine – Sharon Cavanaugh – about meditation and different modalities we have found to be most effective for ourselves and out clients. Do check it out.

We both agree one of our favourite meditators and educators is author and neuroscientist Dr Joe Dispenza, and recently Sharon and a mutual friend had the opportunity to attend an advanced retreat in Denver with Dr Joe. By the way if you ever get a chance to attend one of his events I HIGHLY recommend it. Life changing!!

After the event our mutual friend told me that I would love an insight and distinction Dr Joe shared.

He was talking about finding the balance between ‘intent’ and ‘surrender’. He suggested:

“Over-intent becomes trying (which is a form of separation) and over-surrender becomes giving up”.

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Belief Choice Decision Making Growth Perspective

3 Simple Choices that Changed My Life

Becoming a butterfly

When I am hosting workshops or seminars, I like to share parts of my origin story, for the groups benefit. I also like to think of myself as a ‘crash test dummy’.

I try things out on myself first (like a 5-day water-only fast) and then share with someone like you, what the outcomes were – good, bad and otherwise.

Starting during Easter 1999, I decided to undertake a 30-day challenge, which came in the form of a number CD’s and was presented by Tony Robbins. As a result of that activity, I decided to make (an action) three significant life choices, which steered my life in a (completely) different direction.

This is what I learned back then, coupled with insights from the last couple of decades.